Getting to know you

Girl meets man, man gets number, man ‘toasts’ girl, girl and man get along and they live happily ever after.

Why isn't that the usual formula? It hardly ever happens this way. There are bumps, pauses, all sorts of obstacles along the way. Most of the time its not smooth sailing like in the movies or those romantic novels...you know, those one we filled our heads with when we were young and naive.

So sometimes you are eyeing this guy, and he doesn't get your number..bummer. Or he gets your number and doesn't call..even worse. Then we graduate to… he calls a few times, then stops. Or there’s where you go out on the first date, and that’s it. There are varying levels of excitement building up with each stage where the girl is thinking to herself, this could be it, I think I've met someone and then……..nothing. It could be most disheartening. We start to think, is all this really worth it? This merry-go round is really getting played out, I don't really need anyone...then you meet someone new, and the cycle starts all over again.

There are sets of rules that go with attracting a man, keeping a man, getting a man to commit etc. I came across this on topdatingtips.com. They basically touch on all the rules I have ever heard.

• Always look great, whatever your income.
• Never reveal information you don't have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.
• Keep dates brief but your men interested. Less is always more.
• Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
• Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
• Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.
• Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
• If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
• Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
• Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practise on a mirror if you have to.
• Never ever talk about previous boyfriends and particularly their prowess in the bedroom. The number of ex boyfriends is your business only.
• Never pre suppose anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking
• If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.
• If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace dump him
• Never ever come across as too available or too desperate, he will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing remember?
• You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
• Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

Online Dating Rules

• Always let them come to you, don't chase via email
• Place the best & most vampish photo up you can find
• Don't reply to instant messages with clever opening lines
• Remain aloof and let yourself be chased
• Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt
• Never provide you true email or phone details to the man
• Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn
• Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy as well as enigmatic
• Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best
• Do not assume the man you are talking to is destitute or sad
• Never ever reply to emails at weekends, wait until a weekday
• Never state how good your sexual performance is in your profile
• If you don't want to date married men spell it out in your profile
• A man who doesn't reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored
• Make sure your humour levels come across in text
• Do not chat to hundreds of men at once, the delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will be off.
• Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out.
• Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results


Now its all well and good that there are these rules. But do they really work. There are more girls than guys out there, some guys will quickly move along with all this shakara. But then if a guy is really into you, he will want you regardless...so what’s the point of following these rules?

Girls do you use any of these rules? Guys does it work for you. Do you like haunting and kept waiting and guessing? Or does it drive you crazy?