Wednesday, May 23, 2007

The secret


So my friends and I were discussing the very important topic...'Why black guys choose white girls'...we deliberated through the whole thing in the middle of a restaurant filled with white people.

Some guys would pick white girls every time over a black girl for no apparent reason. I mean I'm all for interracial relationships and all seeing as I may be having a blue eyed blonde curly haired baby but some black guys seem to avoid black girls just on principle. These were the kinds we were trying to dissect. I mean, the fact that we may choose not to date outside our race (or even our tribe in Nigeria) could be seen as harsh and closed minded or even racist but choosing only to date outside your race seems a bit worse. Like...what did they ever do to you to make you that mad?

Anyway, one of the girls told us she had asked her guy friend who had given her the answer. The answer that he thinks makes perfect sense. I mean why didn't we see it before? It’s so obvious...please right click and scroll over the next line to see what it is my black sisters...

Y'ALL KEEP YOUR HAIR IN TOO LONG!

What can I say to that? Nothing!


Picture from mrigmaiden.blogspot.com

44 comments:

londonbuki said...

FIRST!!!

I refuse to sign in!

:-)

Mr.Fineboy said...

Huh??? You're right. nothing to say...

londonbuki said...

LOL!!!!

I just saw you wrote it in white text!

You are a clown!

loomnie said...

I think it might be difficult to give any reason for a person's preferences. I know of a Nigerian who asked why he would come to Europe to eat exactly the same things he ate in Nigeria.... And there are others who simply find a girl beautiful because she is of a different colour. Something close to that happens with Europeans too. I have some white friends who say they wouldn't say hi to another white person they meet in Africa for no other reason than that they are white. There are different reasons for that too. I think the question should be posed to individuals.

9ja Opeke said...

...it smells! Ouch! didn't see that coming...

Pink-satin said...

loomnie is right..the question should be posed to individual...personally i have ever ever been attracted to a white person(except for er...brad pitt,josh lucas)...i love my 9ja boys..but if i meet that oyibo guy that would trip me and all...yup!i will go 4 it..okay i made it totop 10

azuka said...

I suppose you know where my yearnings lie, although I still do get attracted to other girls. On the other hand, there're still some girls who get angry because you don't want to date your color. Well, who cares?

TaureanMinx said...

@LB, lazy you are
@Mr Fineboy..did u get it?
@LB, slow you are
@loomnie, no we were curious about those indivuduals who would pick a certain clour not to date, especailly one that they are. We wanted to know the thougt process (as many as they may be) as to why that specific scenario
@9ja opeke, lol..nope
@pink satin, lol, TV stars? I guess cos they r more like a fantasy?
@Azuka, we were more curious than angry..really who cares but I find it fascinating.

classybabe said...

LMAO!not all black girls do that,although i have seen some braids that have become dreads.

Anonymous said...

I agree, not everyone has artificial hair! :)

I do feel sorry for guys though- just imagine being used to burying your face in your oyibo gf’s hair (or anyone who washes her hair very regularly), getting a whiff of nice-smelling shampoo etc and then having to deal with the smell (THAT smell!!!) of unwashed braids/weave and hair grease, dandruff etc!

BTW, just thought I'd get your opinion on this one- don't u think it is rude (maybe not rude, but not PC) to use the words, 'white girl/boy/people' esp in a public place full of Caucasians? It may be the right description but I would personally find it offensive if tables were turned i.e. a group of white people were having an argument and kept referring to 'black girls, black boys'. It's not very PC.

PS. Re the text in white, didn’t u mean left click as opposed to right? (for PC users anyway)

9ja Opeke said...

On a serious note, I think it is b/c Black girls have too much drama...

TaureanMinx said...

@classybabe, not my words oh, this was one of the reasons a guy mentioned lol
@anonymous, diff strokes I guess, I think black and white is PC, they don't sound offensive at all. All these rules are too many for me. The only words I find offensive are those used in derogratory terms. I will be sure not to use it if it really is offensive to thers though...but i wonder why.
@9ja, I don't think one race has more drama over another, every girl has drama!

Calabar Gal said...

Its not a hair thing!! He's not being truthful. LOL!!

luminousnubian said...

lol!!! thats just wrong!!! not everyone wears weaves, so your friend has to come up with a better answer.
i guess its all preference, some people just are more attracted to white women than black women,and there are some white men that only like black or asian women,its all personal preference.i think....
as a woman i dont discriminate,whatever looks good works regardless of the skin color.

Anonymous said...

Tminx, back to the PC'ness of referring to someone by their colour. It is not wrong per se, it's mainly about looking past the colour of one's skin when trying to describe them... It's like shouting in the middle of the streets of london, 'call that white woman pls', or 'pick up the piece of paper next to the black lady', don't u reckon it sounds a tad inappropriate... Anyway this is my first/second time posting on ur blog. Bet u'll never guess who i am! xx

loomnie said...

@anon, but if the basis of the discussion is colour how do we escape mentioning it? How do you think TM should have referred to preferences based on colour? Maybe she should have used terms like caucasian and negroid? I reckon that the one that starts with an 'n' might remind some of less honourable words, from the same root, that also starts with an 'n'. I think that PCness can only be taken so far, lest we are robbed of words to describe regular everyday lived experiences.

TaureanMinx said...

@l, not my friend oh..loll...thanks for your input.
@Anonymous, I'm sure I can't guess cos you are anonymous lol. I get your point though..but I highlighted the situation because i thought it was bizzare but the convo sucked us in. So who are you?

Kpakpando said...

lmao... you really can't say anything to that, and then that yeye hottie's picture takes the cake

Meme said...

Funny you all should mention the black/white issue...I work in an office where i'm the only black person and someone once said 'oh, we should all bring in pictures of when we were babies and try and guess who's who'! I said...'Well, everyone would get mine being the only black person here!'....laughing. Their response? Silence, then swiftly changing the topic! I don't understand it, it's a fact, I AM the only black person in the office, why should they be afraid to acknowledge it? Since when did saying the words 'black' or 'white' become taboo? We use labels like short, tall, long hair, short hair, blonde, brunette ALL THE TIME...it's an accurate description is all....

I'm rambling...

Nanya said...

lol. I really didnt know guys got hair; actually was pretty sure most of them either dont notice or care unless they can play with it ie. its long and smells nice. Oh well, most oyibo guys dont for sure so maybe more black women should switch. I cannot for the life of me understand why this FOL chick thinks shes soo fly though..although, I gotta admire her confidence. She is inhm a HAM.

Anonymous said...

It does not only have to do with the hair. Putting it quite simply, white girls are seen as more attractive. It's about what has been dictated as beautiful for centuries. Who gets the covers of magazines, who plays the sexy female role in movies...take a look at the rap videos, what's the proportion of full black women to mixed black women in the videos...5:1, 10:1....It's a white man's world and we all live in it.

Anonymous said...

that should say 1:5 or 1:10...my bad

Im A Babe said...

lol...okay no offense but this has gotta be 1 of d dumbest reasons eva. some white gurls dont wash thier hair at all...so d hair thing 2 me is just totally bogus

Nyemoni said...

Funny for real.... but I don't do smelly hair o!!! Funny post!

BabaAlaye said...

I love my Black sisters anyday.
Oyinbo Women don't do it for me at all. Sorta dated a white chick once.Those damned Freckles almost got me cross-eyed.

Give me a TMINX anyday.

Idemili said...

Ha! Na joke? Well, thank God I have all my own hair, kinks and all.

Tminx, why are you going to have a blonde, blue-eyed baby soon?

Oh, wait. I remember. Swedish guy?

Anu boy said...

As for moi... its black all d way... black is freaking sexy.. any day any night and definately any time.. gbabe... my african black women,.. rock on o jare

i am new here... check out my dulling page

Simply Gorgeous said...

T-minx- first let me say great post. Why do you think you would have a white baby with blonde hair and blue eyes?

Next, not all women wear weaves, and braids that are artificial.I never needed to do that, so I don't know what this guy is talking about.

People come up will all different reasons to justify dating or marrying outside of their race.

I personally prefer black men. I have never dated interracially,but I have dated people that were
mixed between black and indian.

I think people should do whatever they know they can live with. If you see a black person staring at you when you have a white person on your arm- he is entitled to feel that way- that sense of betrayal.As you are entitled to your feeling...

9ja Opeke said...

Every gal TaureanMinx? Plus U? Hmmm!

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

Im going to come from a totally different angle to the colour thing. We as the created are many and are of races and colours. I don't find it offensive when some one calls me a black woman when I know I am, or if in america an african american (even though Im black british/nigerian/african). Whats my point, if Tminx didn't mention the fact that her talk was based on the women of the white colour, which in every equal opportunity forms we all fill is stated very obvious we should tick so that one could be identified, we will not understand what her story today was based on.

Now if she had used a derogatory term for white/black/mixed/asian, then there will defo be something to mnetion about.

But to get back on the topic, I think the guys have their own reasons. For my older br for example, we grew in a predominatly white neighbourhood, and all we mixed with were with the white folks. My first boyfriend was a white guy..LOL.. All my brothers girlfriends are all white. He never seems to find one and now because he's used to dating white gals, he now has excuses for not dating balck girls, when I know the original reason.

anyhows you can see im bored.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

i didn't see it

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

oh lmao... i highlighted it and saw it... lmao... that's just wrong... eshhhh...

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Pink-satin said...

i just got it now...we keep our hair in too long!duh

Ebi said...

you anonymous are just shameless human beigns...why cant you get a life..i am sure its the same anonymous that was putting crap on Raquelles page....Why dont you sign in with all ur details...why go anonymous..be bold enuff and put your name and blog page...idiots..omo olori buruku..Listen to urself...babaalaye sponsored her to sweden...where u there when he bought the ticket for her...bloody morra fucker!olobo rirun....In life u will never reach anywhere all u will do is envy pple..GET A LIFE

@ Tminx...pls enable comments moderation....so dis fools cannot write crap on ur blog..

TaureanMinx said...

Moderation is on. Its unfortunate really. People will always hate and haters will always be failures.

Ms zee said...

Well Well Well, the issue of Hair... wow!!! I am growing out my perm as I refused to be labelled (personal choice)....

This is not a funny post. The issue of race is a sensitive one no matter how we look at it.. I hate to say it but colonization also had it's evils, is this a fall out??

monie said...

*sigh*... The interracial dating argument is one that never ends... Hey, has anyone thought that maybe its just that white girls pursue black men more aggressively..? Plus, I heard white girls are freaks in the sack...lol..

Seriously though, I don't know... I'm still cracking up at all the responses..

Uzo said...

I missed all the bruha....LOL...People sef...

NaijaBloke said...

Omo nuthn like a good hot choclata sista o .. dunno why i cant even stand white chics ..... and who wants to marry one chic that will use all my money to do boob jobs,chase wrinkle all over her away etc ... abeg all hail the black sista jere

catwalq said...

I am attracted to men period. irrespective of race. I am not offended when I see interracial couples out and about. We cannot help to whom our hearts gravitate and putting all stupid man made restrictions on feelings like race and tribe is a useless waste of time. If u are willing to let go of a perfectly good experience just to please people of your tribe, u are crazy.
I know it is quite cheesy to say that if u love someone then go right ahead and do just that but I will. life is too short and I have told my parents that if they stress me out over whom I end up with, I am bringing home a Japanese husband and and Aborigene grandchild. C'est finit

omohemi Benson said...

lol@Naijabloke's comment.
True word.

The hair issue is a flimsy excuse.
How you dey love?

Anonymous said...

I wear weave and braids and they don't smell b/c I wash and clean regularly. My hair smells like flowers. By the way...I am engaged to a BLACK man. As for those negros that only date white women b/c of hair or whatever else...I don't give a shit. Do you.