Thursday, November 16, 2006

No pressure?

My people I received the shock of my life yesterday oh. As of yesterday I could swear on anything (no that I swear) that my father wanted me in this house. Yes his first daughter, he would never want to part with her. But I was in for a rude shock. At breakfast he turned to me and said

"Tminx, your mother said that the way you and your friends are going, you don't want to settle down"

What?? What does he mean settle down please....then my mother interrupts

"Thats not what I meant now (smiling sheepishly), I was just saying that they all pack around in large groups...mostly single girls, how do they give guys a chance?"

So I promptly told him he was free to introduce me to any eligible people he knew because I know he never would.

"Me? No way, do your own work"
"I tried oh, a very good family was interested, their son is a MEDICAL DOCTOR in America.." Isn't this the stuff of village movies?
"Mummy, Iowa is not America as far as I'm concerned and he is too old and was extremely boring on the phone".
"Since when is 35 old, how many years is between your father and I?"
"35 is not old now", my dad interjects

At this point I'm looking at the two of them like we all stepped into some horror movie, they can't be serious. My father has never encouraged my mum like this nowwww, why is he pulling a fast one. He's probably trying to make up with her for some offence.

"Anyway they stopped calling because you were unresponsive. Just make sure you don't drive all the men away because he is too old or has a big nose, or is too short or not cool enough. At the end of the day they will stop coming".

"Yes mother"

Wonders shall never cease.

Guys I have to go to Kaduna on Saturday with CHACHAINGI for my friends wedding. I tried all means to get out of it cas y'all know how I'm petrified of flying especially local flights with all the wahala but she and her husband have been peristent and I'm starting to look like a spoil sport. I was scared but todays reading was about overcoming obstacles that end up crippling your spiritual growth and in the Bible (Positive Living) today, I noticed a little prayer...

By the grace and power of the Lord Jesus Christ, I'm going to find interest in life; I'm going to put interest into my living. By the grace and power of the Lord Jesus Christ, I'm going to live with delight and excitement; I'm going to live with enthusiasm.

So with excitement and enthusiasm, I travel for my friends wedding tomorrow. I'll be back to tell you guys about it on Monday by Gods grace.

Later!

45 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yayy! I'm first...
Hey girl, have a safe trip. Worry not, you will be fine and everything will go great.
Your conversation with your parents made me feel so nostalgic for a number of reasons...
Parents... well we know it's just because they love us. God bless them.

Anonymous said...

Oh, and I love the bit on living with enthusiasm... gosh I need more of that.

Vickii said...

Just pray before your flight and you'll be safe! Have fun in Kaduna, let us know what it is like now, I haven't been there in over ten years and I miss it!

LOL at your parents. My dad has started asking me 'do you have a boyfriend yet?' everytime I see him. Apparently I'm not as young as I think I am and I'm too picky. Oh, and I hang out too much with my cousin and my female friends, how am I going to meet guys? Nigerian dad's must have a handbook on how to deal with independent daughters!Too picky? Since when is choosing a life partner too trivial to be picky about???

Good luck!

Uzo said...

Have fun in Kaduna. I like it there. We shall be waiting for all the stories and pictures of course.

Your parents are too cute. When the conversations start going in that direction, look out. LOL

Dipo Tepede said...

Cool write-up, cool site;

In any sense, you still have to travel why not go with gusto!

Boso said...

That must have been one awkward conversation. Nigerian parents are really funny when it comes to this thing. I remember when I first started dating my wife, her mum called me aside for an 'interview' to 'find out my intentions!'. That would scare away most guys I know !!

Anonymous said...

Have a safe journey.

Word of advice: Don't let your parents pressure you into that. It can turn out to be the biggest mistake of your life. Better they're 'angry' with you now, than you end up hating them later.

TaureanMinx said...

@daddys girl, thanks. Lol, I've read other blogs so I know I'm not alone.
@I've heard the too picky thing too. Like its something you shouldn't be picky about. I mean you will see this person most days for the rest of your life.
@Uzo, lol, I know. Its going to increase now that the dam has been broken
@Dipo, thats the idea!
@Boso, she did?? Lol, what did you tell her?
@Chxta, trust me, my mum likes to suggest but will never insist. She repects my decisions at the end of the day even if she doesn't like it.

Dimples said...

LOL!!!...about the breakfast conversation….and interesting topic to have 1st thing in the morning.

My father has started to hint that if I can’t find a man in England..he will kindly find one in Lagos for me…that ideally…but no pressure he tells me he would like to see his grandkids by the time he’s 60 (phew!!!...no pressure :) my dad is 57..that gives me 3 years if my maths degree is anything to live by).

Have a safe trip…and remember to fill us in on all the gist.

Anonymous said...

LOL. I got married 3 years ago at 29 and I spent the better part of my 20s hanging with my girlfriends,Being independent nd supposedly intimidating guys away(according to people). If I could I would do it all over again...exactly the same way. Ibelieve the 20s are an excellent time for self discovery. The awkward teen phase is gone and most people start coming into their own career wise.A very good time for self discovery. My take on it is how can you choose a mate if you don't really quite know who you are yet? Have a safe flight. Nice blog

BabaAlaye said...

I know a sweet guy in nija... But em... He doesn't have a car.

Don Chi as Blog Marley a.k.a. El Senor Supremo said...

I'm with your folks on this one but hey, what do I know, right? And it's like Jay-Z said, 30's the new 20. Get yo mind right!

And as your friendly neighborhood Superman, flying is the still the safest way to travel. We hear about planes falling out of the sky because... well, they fell out the sky. The roads are littered with dead bodies on the daily but we don't hear about that. You know how I do and my own outlook on things: when it's yo time to go, it's yo time to go.

And as your "overbearing eyes" I believe it is 'Chanchangi'

How are you?

LondonBuki said...

I don't believe 'Uncle H' has joined in!!! Oh No! LOL!!!

So you are going to Kaduna, may the Lord grant you journey mercies and I hope you have loadsa fun :-)

Love to the fam ;-)

temmy said...

Have a safe trip hun! The Lord will keep y'all on the flight safe.

As for mom and dad..... they remind me of my parents.

3 Gbosa...gbosa!gbosa!gbosa! said...

ha!ha!9ja parents would never change..i can imagine my folks doing the same..that was a funny piece..but i think it is kinda true that when girls pack themselves in groups guys are kinda like intimidated sa!
Anywayz have a safe trip..maybe you should fast b4 u go(cos @ d rate of crashes in 9ja we need spiritual help)apart 4rm that u'll be just fine

naijagal said...

have a fun trip and a safe flight to Kaduna and back! will be waiting for pictures oh!

Toun said...

lol@ "Iowa is not America". LMAO!!!

But girl, I feel you. That must have been like a surreal moment with u and ur folks. What the heck? Anyways, have fun at missy's wedding. Send her my love. Me and Funms are trying to see her in a couple of weeks.

imoted said...

LOL... You should be happy you just getting "the talk"... LOL. Safe trip to Kaduna. Enjoy the engagement!

snazzy said...

i know right. It's like if u are in ur mid twenties and single u have a sign on your forehead that says hopeless incompetent needs help to find wife. And I know it is even worse for u girls. I think that sticker goes up at 21. I got back and people have been like its good u have found work during your service year as that would help u settle down quicker and so from next year u should be looking to get married. It seems that the myth about people marrying later these days came to nigeria to die a quick and painful death

Biodun said...

Have a safe trip girl n have fun too! Parentssssssss, they can be something else atimes, trust me my mum is forever on my case too, so when r u settling down, dont turn ur husband into boyfriend o, blah blah, they r only looking out for our good but it sure could be annoying sometimes.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

lmao.. i never thought the day would come oh.. popsi self trying to hook you up ehn?!?!? Gluck with your trip to Kaduna oh... i hope you have tons of fun... lmao @ not liking a guy cos of his nose, his height.. lmao... but momsi will be the first to complain if you dated a truly hideous short man(lol.. I know my mom would)... have fun babe

BGT said...

Tell ya folks that when you find the right man, you will settle.

Meanwhile, have fun in KD and just pray before the flight. YOu will be fine.

Baba God no dey sleep.

PSB said...

Just touch the airplane door before you enter the plane and say a quick prayer (4sec.) That is one ritual I perform each time I travel and I dont care if the air hostesses look at me all weird!

Have fun at the wedding!

ToyinE said...

Yo Taurean, i think your parents wont mind having another wedding in the fam o so just let them know when u're ready and its all good - meanwhile - ive heard relatively good stuff about Chachangi so do like everyone has said - pray before travelling and come back and give us some good gist on the Northern wedding!

Belle said...

its always more intense when fathers join the marraige bandwagon...lol
have a safe trip, and i look forward to reading about the wedding...

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

Im glad your parents will be glad to know that at least you attend weddings -LOL - But if your father has now joined on the band wagon of trying to get you hitched - it must becasue your mum has been quietly speaking into his ears - and you know husbands and wife - anything to make their wife happy - LOL - This is where it all begins ..

zaiprincesa said...

Tminx,
u shuld be thnakful it was only a breakfast conversation btwn u and ur parents...count urself lucky. In my house, its a prayersession and intervention with my mum and all her "posse"..lol..so really, just heed their words and count urself lucky. ..
And have fun in KD.

Anonymous said...

lol....Nigerian parents will never change. Be rest assured that u r not alone!

Safe trip!
Kaduna is actually very nice...
Enjoy

Toni Payne said...

The name of the airline scares me. lol. May God guide you back and forth. Amen. LMAO @ your parents. i totally feel you, makes you wonder how they changed overnight from don't follow boys to when are you going to settle down, and it baffles me why they automatically assume its because you have single friends.lol.

Funmi said...

Have a safe trip girl........

Vera Ezimora said...

TaureanMinx: girl since it has started, it will follow until you get married. After which they will not understand why you wanna wait a lil before having children. It's ridiculous!

LOL @ Iowa not being America. I feel you girl.

Anthony Arojojoye said...

I saw the Chachangi pilot for the flight at the airport lounge drinking paraga!
Better pray wella!


Safe trip.

NaijaBloke said...

Have a safe trip o ... wow scary though...

I guess ur mum now needs grandkids o

ms. may said...

LMAO at your dad joining in the pressure party. That's when you know it's getting serious...LOL.

You are completely covered on that flight and on your return flight. Nothing will happen.

See/Hear from you on Monday. Have fun!!!!

lurvchild said...

Eeeeehn, E. so that's why you shenked ur girlfriends side eh.
God dey sha,lol.

angie said...

Have a safe trip(mayb u should sit nearer the rear of the plane...it seems safer..lol).
U r not alone...my dad has been throwing subtle hints. He even told me not to do my masters abroad yet cos there r no husbands, abroad(can u imagine)

azuka said...

The essential story of every single lady.

"I want to hold my grandchildren!"

Mari said...

KD!!!You are going to Kaduna...thats my home. I wonder who's getting married. Ever since I left Nigeria I've lost contact with alot of people out there. Its sooo sad KD isnt what it used to be back in the days- one of the most beautiful cities up north.

Anyhoo, I wish you a very safe trip out there. Please pray before you board and once you've boarded. Your trip shall be blessed.

LOL@ your parents statements. I guess naija parents will always be the same sha. Its all love but you also have to make them understand you as well.

Mona said...

LOLLLLL we've all been through it, my dad that we hardly discuss anything remotely related to relationships even friends sef was asking me who the lucky guy is? God help us!! lol...God will guide you to the wedding in Kaduna and back, Amen

Onada said...

welcome to my world babe!! its time to find husband ohhhhh


hope you have fun at the wedding:)

Toun said...

Yeah like PSB said, say a quick prayer, touch the plane before you enter it and cover it with the blood of Jesus. I do that before I get into any plane oo. The devil is a liar!!!

Discombobulated Diva said...

I'm definitely a daddy's girl as well... but at some point the parents start pressuring you... my father even said to me once "by the time I was your age, I was already married"... My reply "yeah, but I'm only 24 day, so back off of me and we're in the states so its harder to find a good nigerian man! besides we live in a different day and age than you did"...

needless to say, he's ready for me to settle down...

btw... don't forget to say a prayer b4 you get on the flight!
~DD

Anonymous said...

lol @ Anthony Arojojoye

The Voyeur said...

Mummy is right. Surrounding yourself with girls makes it hard to meet guys.


SNF

bibi said...

yes...oo it gets awkward when parents start talking to their kids about marriage...my dad had that talk with my sis and I...I hate to admit tho..they re right...