Friday, March 10, 2006


Lo and be-hold a colleague sent this email out to all the ladies in the company a few days ago. Please read and enjoy. Considering that this lady hardly converses or emails us, many drew quick angry conclusions. Feel free to make a comment of your own. I walk in and you see me. You see that my hair is done, my outfit is fierce and I carry myself like a lady. I smile at you but you roll your eyes at me, then, turn your head and whisper something to your girl.Why you hatin'?

Ok... so maybe I'm a new employee and this is my first day at work. I almost thought I would be the only sistah in the joint until someone introduced us to each other. I smile and extend my hand, happy to know I won't be here alone.
You smile and shake my hand but there's insincerity in your eyes and your hand is limp. You seem guarded. What's wrong Ma'?

Ok maybe my man and I have been having problems.
And since you've been my best friend for years I confide
in you that I think he'scheating on me. You offer your support.
Until I find out that he's been cheating on me....with you! Why would you hurt me like that?

I found your knife's in my back.

As women we battle daily. We battle keeping our families together, keeping our men happy and maintaining our presence in the workforce. With all that battling going on why in the world should we have to battle each other?

Now I'm not saying every sistah has a knife...but some of you do(not I)....and you know who you are. Why is it that a woman can't get her glamour on without you having a problem?
Why can't I get a blonde weave without you having something to say?
If I'm working myself to death in the office trying to climb the corporate ladder...
why am I suddenly a sellout?
If I leave the room for a minute why can't I trust you around my man? Smiling in my face, but gossiping all my personal business behind my back? You now have permission to consider yourself triflin'!

Inferiority Complex.
It makes us feel that in order to be someone special we have to put everyone else beneath us. Are we so insecure inourselves that we can't feel good until we pull someone else down?
There's something wrong here.
We've come to envy those who've accomplished in their lives what we've only dreamed of having for ourselves. And when we fear we will never be able to get wha! t we want - we steal it.

There is a serious self-worth issue going on here. We're in a day and age where we should be encouraging each other and holding each other up.

Sisterhood should not end when Oprah goes off. Truth be told, there will always be someone prettier, sexier, stronger, and smarter. I'm sorry Boo - that's just the way it is. But that's ok.....just do you!

I don't care how good Beyonce' looks - if she walks into the same roomI'm in, it doesn't make me any less of the diva I already am! I love admiring hairstyles...but there's no need to be jealous. Honey, nowadays there's enough hair for err-body. I have goals in life. There are things I strive to attain. Yet I seek out successful sisters because they keep me motivated.

Life is so much more than who looks the best, who dresses the best and who makes more money. So when you see your sister going for hers let it inspire you .... To do you

The e-mail makes sense and is totaly true about women in general (not me, butter wouldn't melt in my honeyed mouth) but my its a bit confrontional coming from someone I hardly know.


Jeremy said...

hey minx. just realised you knicked my loving living laughing in your description! That's a bit unoriginal innit?

Too Me to blog said...

Go back. check the original email. is it forwarded? yes. cool. no she typed it. shoot her.

Kenyananalyst said...

Happy IWD. This is tiz for a woman and country I respect lots....

Anonymous said...

I hope this "Jeremy" is kidding, if not it's best he's ignored!!!

TaureanMinx said...

@ hi Jeremy, I didn't actually nick it but I guess that line must have stuck on from a previous time I had read ur blog. When u copyright the term, lemme know. :)

@too me to blog, She smartly put a fwd in the subject line but it looked original to me.

@kenyananalyst, hapy belated IWD to you too!

@anonymous, he sure isn't kidding.

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ToyinE said...

haha E... do you want a free gaming system?? meanwhile has the AA ever had blond weave in her hair and caused laughter in the office? Mebbe that really upset her! You should say hi to her more often cos i think she doesnt have friends at work.

Everchange said...

that does seem a little strange to me. Methinks the lady has a victim complex. That email will create more resentment than love for her.

Adaure said...

go and bitch slap, double deck her and somewhere in between you dash her one 'hidoken'

Anonymous said...

its an old forward.i think its a maya angelou write up.not sure though.
try befriend de chic sha

Miss YQ said...

I've only read a couple of your blogs and I think I like you already! Why do I feel like I know you? Possibly because you describe certain things the way I think them in my head? Ignore the cows o jare - a lot of women are forever hating. I was reading somewhere ( that a lot of women can't be genuinely happy for another female, especially if she's together and seems happy or better or more fulfilled or whatever.

Keep blogging. You're obviously very brave - moving back to Nigeria when the rest of us are too scared and sit tight.