2 YEARS..What a journey.

Hi guys! I think I've reached the end of my constant blogging days, boo hooo. This month is my 2nd year anniversary for this blog and I'm running out of steam. I may get the urge to blog, and will, every now and then but for now thank you all so much for reading and contributing! It's been a great journey with every single one of you.

Also, I have a new camera and will put up a new picture everyday on my PHOTOBLOG with little notes about what I'm up to. So I'm not completely gone.

Take Care everyone. Lots of Love and Hugs :)

My Top Chick Flicks

In no particular order....

Love Jones- Romantic

Splash

Waiting to Exhale- Angela Basset was serioussss lol

Dirty Dancing- Nobody puts baby in a corner.......

My big fat greek wedding

Pretty woman

Four weddings and a funeral

Love actually

My best friends wedding

Jerry Mcguire

She's all that

While you were sleeping

Ten things I hate about you

Thelma and Louise- Just for that sot of Brads body

The note book

Ghost

Sleepless in Seattle

How to lose a guy in 10 days.

Did I leave any out? I vaguely remember this movie where the woman was from space....

Don't you just hate in when......

So I don't really feel inspired to blog BUT then thats what memes are there for. Its called DON'T YOU JUST HATE IT WHEN and you are all tagged even facebookers :)

DYJHIW....well this is the past but when you were watching a Nigerian TV station and whatever was on was really interesting then suddenly...INTERLUDE! WTF?

DYJHIW....you go to watch a movie at Silverbird and the people next to you are either talking loudly like they are in their living room, saying the lines of the movie before they are spoken, speaking directly to the actors/actresses e.g RUN, he's coming!, clapping or laughing in the weirdest parts of the movie.

DYJHIW....you are having a great dream, then you wake up.

DYJHIW....you meet a really great guy/girl....and he/she has a significant other.
orrrrrrr......you meet a really cute guy/girl......and then he/she speaks.
orrrrrrr......any more additions?

DYJHIW....you get dressed to go out, looking fabulous and you get carded by the bouncer because you look too young. Note to self: Put ID in purse.

DYJHIW....you make a call to Nike/Betty etc (a girls name, you get the picture) with V-Mobile/MTN and instead get Mr Moshood on the other end screaming 'ELLO, 'ELLO.

DYJHIW....you watch a movie subtitled in another language and when the characters speak another language, its not subtitled in English so you have to guess what is being said.

DYJHIW....things don't go according to plan!!!

What DYJWIW?

Picture from here

YO!

Everybody's doing the brand new dance nowww, common baby do the locomotion......

This song reminds me of days with Dirty dancing, Grease, Breakdance (the movie).....easy days!

When we were really young, my dad used to record MTV when he travelled and then we would jut sit and watch all the old tapes over and over again. There was one song we really like 'You talk too much, you never shut up! Hey you over there, I know about your type, you're like the independent network news on Channel 9, everywhere that you go, no matter where you are at, I say you talk about this and you talk about that!' Lol, I still remember the rap.

There was Paula Abdul singing 'Rush rush, hurry hurry lover come to meeeeee' and Madonna singing 'Cherish is the word I use to remind me ooofff, your looooove'.. and Scary Grace Jones with the unique haircut and weird videos....and Eurythymics with 'Sweet dreams are made of these or Heaven must be missing an angel'

But then some of the VHS tapes got dirty. Also the househelp, Joy, used to hide some in the bathroom under the pipes and when we found them...there was mould all over.

I'm still waiting for my new camera to arrive, hope your week started off on a good note :).

OOOOHH I found the video for SHUT UP!! Don't you just love Youtube!!!

WATCH THE VIDEO FOR SHUT UP, ME AND MY SIBLINGS FAV SONG YEARRRRS AGO :)

Fear

Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won't feel unsure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. As we let our own Light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.


After watching Akeela and the Bee, Marianne's quote inspired me but as these things do, it kind of retreated to the back of my mind. But a lot of things have occurred around me in the past year that have caused me to remember the quote from time to time.

My strong beautiful ladies. When it comes to men, some of us just carry too much fear around with us and its just plain ugly. Fear causes you to compromise on your ideals, to make choices you wouldn't normally make, to look desperate, or to act a fool.

Scenario 1

Guy is very much interested in Rita. He runs through fire, jumps hoops, crosses the seven seas to get you. He succeeds, Rita falls. Suddenly Rita starts doing all the chasing. She cooks, cleans, buys presents, worries, cuddles, pets Guy. Sometimes she wants to go ballroom dancing but decides to do what Guy wants. When did the balance tip? Rita feels that she has to do all these things to ensure that Guy doesn't loose interest in her. She's afraid that being herself isn't good enough, she has to do all these extra things, not from her heart but for fear that he will leave her. Then Rita gets frustrated and upset. Guy doesn't appreciate the things he does for him. Guy probably doesn't recognise the exciting girl he knew Rita to be. The one who had such a full life with hobbies etc. Suddenly she's choking him and nagging him, making him feel inadequate.

Scenario 2

Tope is in love with Dotun. Whenever they quarrel be it Dotuns or Topes fault, a pattern repeats itself. Dotun sulks around and doesn't talk to her. He maintains a cold war and in the end shes the one begging for forgiveness. She cooks a nice meal which he may not eat. She calls him 100 times a day, she writes letters, she agrees she was wrong. Dotun sulks till he is ready to announce the end of the cold war. Tope is afraid that if she doesn't beg before its too late, Dotun might break up with her.

Scenario 3

Chichi really likes Emeka. They have gone on three dates and shes in Emekas house now and nobody is home. She wants to wait until she is married but Emeka is telling her he really likes her and is trying to convince her to sleep with him. She's not sure what to do. If she tell's him she's not ready, he might not go out with her again like the last guy she told besides he'll probably think shes old school and strange.

The problem here is that Rita and Tope and Chichi doubt themselves. They don't think that its enough to just be. A lot of us make the mistake of losing ourselves when we enter into relationships. All the confidence you once had in yourself and how brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous you are seems to evaporate. Rita tailored her life to Guys and then became resentful when she should have maintained her own hobbies and given the relationship some breathing space. Tope has entered into a pattern of emotional blackmail when all she needs to do is let Dotun get over his sulking, if he loves her fabulous self, he'll get over it and apologise if he is wrong. But if he knows she'll come begging, why should he? That is not an ideal relationship anyway. Chichi wants to compromise her beliefs for a guy she feels might not respect them. She's afraid that she will never have a relationship because of this decision she has made. If you don't believe in yourself then why will others?

This brings me to another quote

Bonaro W. Overstreet:
Perhaps the most important thing we can undertake toward the reduction of fear is to make it easier for people to accept themselves, to like themselves.

I recommend Boundaries, When to say yes and When to say no to everyone especially women. Its a very good read. Click on the link to read some of the chapters.

I'm not a guru in these matters oh, I'm just sharing thoughts playing in my mind. Feel free to share your philosophies :)

What's your fine?

It's my brothers birthday today. Fineboy, happy birthday! Wishing you many more excellent years to come and Gods protection and blessings. I love you!!!!

I received a post from a forward from a friend yesterday so I thought I'd share. Its list of offences and you have to add up the fines for those you have commited. Leave a comment letting us know your total fine but not the offences...seriously we don't want to know. Lol.

Smoked pot -- $10

Ever had sex at church -- $25

Woke up in the morning and did not know the person who was next to
you-- $40

Had sex with someone you met on MySpace/Blogger/Facebook/Hi5 etc -- $25

Had sex for money -- $100

Ever had sex with the a different race -- $20

Vandalized something -- $20

Had sex on your parents' bed -- $10

Beat up someone -- $20

Been jumped -- $10

Given money to stripper -- $25

Been in love with a stripper -- $20

Kissed some one who's name you didn't know -- $0.10

Hit on some one of the same sex while at work -- $15

Ever drive drunk -- $20

Ever got drunk at work, or went to work while still drunk -- $50

Used toys while having sex --$30

Got drunk, passed out and don't remember the night before -- $20

Went skinny dipping -- $5

Had sex in a pool -- $20

Kissed someone of the same sex-- $10

Had sex with someone of the same sex -- $20

Cheated on your significant other -- $10

Masturbated -- $10

Cheated on your significant other with their relative or close
friend --$20

Done oral -- $5

Got oral --$5

Done / got oral in a car while it was moving -- $25

Stole something -- $10

Had sex with someone in jail -- $25

Made a nasty home video -- $15

Had a threesome -- $50

Been in the same room while someone was having sex -- $25

Stole something worth more than a hundred dollars-- $20

Had sex with someone 10 years older -- $20

Had sex with someone under 21 and you are over 27 -- $25

Been in love with two people or more at the same time -- $50

Said you love someone but didn't mean it -- $25

Went streaking -- $15

Been arrested -- $5

Spent time in jail -- $15

Peed in the pool -- $0.50 (Ikoyi club pools must have seeeen some things! lol)

Played spin the bottle -- $5

Done something you regret -- $20

Had sex with your best friend -- $20

Had sex with someone you work with at work -- $25

Lied to your mate -- $5

Lied to your mate about the sex being good -- $25

Stole meat from the pot -- $10

Lied about stealing meat from the pot -- $20

My fine is 140.50. JUDGE AND BE JUDGED.